People always tell me when I get frustrated working on things since I can’t come up with lyrics or muster up the courage to sing like “why don’t you get someone else to sing on it”
Idk in a way it just means something special to me to be able to sing on my own track, my own words coming from my own voice? It may frustrate me that it’s not what I wish it could be or something but there’s just something personal I feel about an artist writing the words to their own song for their own intended meaning.
In a lot of ways it feels kinda impersonal musically when you can tell someone wrote a song and passed it to just whatever vocalist they could find to fill with pop-isms or something - a lot of popular EDM stuff feels like that to me like it’s nice and all but it doesn’t feel like the whole message of the song had a unified artistic goal in it’s creation.
With respect to your artistic choices, I have to disagree about this. This idea, as a limitation, is all in the mind. For example, this “issue” has been solved for centuries, out of necessity, in musical theater. The one or two people who write the lyrics to a musical physically can’t step up and play all the parts, but they have a team of people, including the director, band, and actors, who are all specially trained to empathize with the author’s intentions. Of course, they can’t be a one-to-one translation of the author’s feelings, but usually, the author’s voice can’t manage perfect expression, either. Instead, the actor adds her own wealth of experience to the song, building on the structure laid out. And if they’re getting something wrong, then it is the director’s (and the author’s! In theater, the writer is considered the highest authority on their play) responsibility to help the actor understand the intent better, and help them express it clearer.
Take Frank Sinatra, for a non-theater example. One of the most popular, well-known singers in history, and he never wrote a single thing. Now, did he get famous for just throwing his magical voice at whatever notes and lyrics someone slid his way? No. He specifically said, “Throughout my career, if I have done anything, I have paid attention to every note and every word I sing - if I respect the song. If I cannot project this to a listener, I fail.” The only way he was able to sing properly was to feel the meaning of the song in every single note of it, and use his own skills to convey that meaning to the audience.
Maybe it would make it easier if you thought about the singer as another instrument. (I’m not sure exactly what tools you use, so I’ll go with a common physical instrument example first.) Most guitar players did not make their own guitar. They picked out the guitar, because they liked how it sounds and how easy it is for them to work with. They write the parts for the guitar (even if not written down physically), and play it, but the voice that sounds will always include the luthier’s spirit as much as the songwriter’s. The same could go for any electronic instrument! The programmer’s voice, the electrical engineer’s voice, they all have to be taken and integrated by you, the writer, and made into a cohesive whole.
It can be scary, because you can’t just play a singer like a guitar, and you can’t directly control their tone with electric dials. You have to talk to the singer and effectively communicate the meaning and soul behind your song before anyone can even hear it! But it’s not impossible. There are singers all over the world who are trained especially for that talent, and asking their help to express your meaning better has no more shame than using a guitar to produce sounds you couldn’t alone.